*UPDATED* A 2ND, 3RD, &4TH PERSON HAS COME FORWARD TO SPEAK ABOUT EXPERIENCES WITH XANDER & CORROBORATE HIS BEHAVIOR. UPDATED AT END OF POST, BELOW.
Update #2: We learned earlier this evening that Xander has checked himself into a psychiatric / mental health facility to seek assistance for depression among other things.
A friend of many here in East Nashville, is a lady named Lauren. Lauren went to visit a friend over the weekend, and got much more than she bargained for. According to Lauren, she was sexually assaulted by a guy, who doesn’t identify as male, but does identify as a ‘Brony’. (Don’t worry – we had to look it up, too. Here, here, & here.)
The person that Lauren went to go meet and that reportedly sexually assaulted her, is Xander J. Binkles, according to his facebook. It does appear his actual last name is Binkley according to online records we were able to obtain, and he identifies as ‘Lexi’ on his google profile. Xander is a member of a ‘band’ that has absolutely zero facebook followers (called ‘The Smoking Monkeys‘), and also works at Dunkin’ Donuts, according to his online profile. In addition to all of this, he is also a Bronie – a true fan of My Little Pony. Did we mention that Xander lives at home with his parents? He does. So far, he’s quite the catch – right, ladies?
So what exactly happened to Lauren? She explains that “this weekend I got stuck in a brony’s driveway due to the snow and they groped me repeatedly while I waited for their dad to get my car unstuck…“
She further explains “…I went to hang out with someone I knew from Facebook and go get some food, they were super super weird and way too intense and kept telling me about how our future relationship was gonna go, then we got back and I tried to leave and my car was stuck in the snow so I came inside to warm up on the couch and they started touching my boobs and stuff and at first I went with it because I was terrified but then I said I wasn’t comfortable with it but I still got my nipples touched, and they apologized for having a boner and then rubbed it all over me…“
We’re pretty sure that’s called sexual assault. While Lauren doesn’t want to make a big deal of it, her sisters here at ENN think her story should be told, so we’re putting Xander on notice that his actions were very much inappropriate.
In Lauren’s words “I told them to stop and they said they said they liked that I was being “dom” wtf, I was like, I’m not doing a bdsm power-play thing I just don’t want you to touch my boobs.” and she continued “I guess but the problem is I did eventually voice my own boundaries and it still didn’t stop… I woulda made a scene but i was fucking stuck there, there was nowhere to go… it’s like, you imagine you’d know what to do in that situation until it’s really happening to you, and then it’s somehow different…“
Though sarcastic in nature, the comment below seems somewhat relevant, given the circumstances:
Whether he or she identifies as Lexi or Xander, according to Lauren: “They actually said they don’t identify as male which I feel kinda skeptical about but I’m not one to judge so idk but I did still get humped“
We found a video of Xander from nearly 2 years ago that gives some insight into him. We wonder what happened between then and now that makes him think it’s ok to allegedly put his hands on a lady after she tells him ‘no’?
Shortly after publication, we received a message from someone who wanted to remain anonymous, but corroborate Xander’s behavior:
Hey there. I wanted to comment on the Xander Binkley article but wanted to remain anonymous. So I started working at Dunkin as an overnight baker at the beginning of December.
I was immediately warned that at some point I’d be trained by Xander. No one had a good thing to say about the guy. The words “creep” “junkie” “slacker” were all thrown around but I pride myself on my ability to get along with anyone so I figured I’d have an open mind. Big mistake.
He was immediately condescending and a know it all but whatever, I can deal with that. A female employee also trained with us that night and the two spent the ENTIRE shift talking about tinder hookups and about her open relationship and (very creepily) if she wanted to come back to his place to get smoked out. All signs pointed to creepy, predatory behavior. In between “performances” of his songs and poems during break he’d slam feminists and minorities in the same breath.
Every female employee that has worked with him has had a story about his forward advances and creepy/stalkery tendencies. He’s taken advantage of co-workers and is a deplorable employee. Yet nothing has been done about him because he and his stores manager are friends. I just wanted to pass along that there is a history of predatory behavior happening and it’s going to continue. He’s dangerous and unstable and who knows how many have stories like Lauren’s.
We also received this from our text tipline earlier this evening:
Unbelievably, a 4th person wanted to share their feelings without being named, we publish their chilling email below:
Hello, I just wanted to respond to this article and remain anonymous. I read what was written about Xander and immediately felt sick to my stomach. I shared the article, and below is what I wrote about my experience with him, in minor detail. I would like to direct my response to the people who are accusing him, and to the authorities because I deem it to be relatively important.
Okay, Tennessee, listen up because this is important.
I don’t know any of the other people who have claimed to be sexually assaulted by this guy. I have never met them and I never knew anything about them until I found out about this article less than an hour ago. I knew him personally, we met online and went out a couple of times but I made it clear that my intentions were strictly friendly. He never put his hands on me in a sexual way, there were a few times that he kept trying to put his arm around me or make excuses about kissing but I never let him kiss me and would stop him from continuing to show physical affection to me. It was never sexual, and he did stop after I kept moving and making it obvious that this was all awkward and I didn’t want it to be happening. The reason I felt uneasy about reading this article was because he did very recently make me incredibly uncomfortable and I stopped speaking to him. Every time that we spent time together I felt mildly uncomfortable because it seemed like he always wanted us to be alone or sort of “stuck” somewhere. I can tell you this person is very unstable and has moderately obsessive behavior. I had to tell him to stop talking or referring to me in romantic ways CONSTANTLY and we were only friends for a couple of weeks. Eventually he just began coming up with reasons to visit me that was socially acceptable, like the time that he demanded to come over and give me a present and money (even after I told him no and that he didn’t have to). And the last time I saw him, which was the time that I forced him to leave my house. He had asked me to hang out and I told him maybe the day before, and then very suddenly shows up at my house 5 minutes later (even though he lives 30ish minutes away) with groceries in his hand after I did not invite him over to my house. I was alone, which he had previously asked and messaged me about and I didnt respond, and walked into my house and started unloading groceries. When it was clear that I was uncomfortable and kept asking him why he was here, he kept trying to deflect the subject and try to offer me a cigarette or ask if he could invite his friend Alex over. I didn’t even tell him to come to my house! After I kept telling him no that I didnt want to hang out, he started to get angry and I told him to take the things he brought and get out of my house. He refused to take any of the groceries (which i did not ask for or want) that he brought to my house, and I shut the door in his face and locked it. He waited outside of my house for a brief period of time and finally left. I told him since that I dont want to speak to or hang out with him anymore, and he has left me alone (although this was only a few days ago).
I also want to say that even though I don’t know the people who are accusing him, I do know someone personally with evidence that I have seen and read and would be willing to show to authorities if they require a confession. Because I have one. I have an account that can be opened and read from my experiences of having to tell him constantly that I do not want his affection, and also a good friend of mine has a message sent from Xander himself that states a confession. I would be happy to prove this if required of me.
I was trying to befriend Xander because he wasn’t stupid, and he was genuinely interested in getting to know me. He felt sort of lost, and I felt kind of bad for him for being so lost in his identity, but he was nice to me a lot of times when he didn’t need to be. I’m not saying he’s some sort of maniac, but I am saying that he does have frightening behavior and that I do believe that he is unsafe. I can say that when he is sober, and not speeding or high on any sort of pill, that he is exponentially less safe to be around. On one of our outings he would yell things that were very uncomfortable or ask me about things that I felt uncomfortable talking about. He will try to justify the things that he does in able to appease your uneasy feeling about a situation. He will say things very suddenly that are uncomfortable and you’ll watch him wait for a reaction. He means well, in his own eyes, and tries to be as nice to you as possible thinking that some sort of magic flame will ignite and you’ll have drank from a love potion that means that the two of you can be together forever.
Just be careful.
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